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[pattrose]

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Things I Wanted to Tell My Mother
Things I Wanted to Tell My Father

I was with both of my parents the last ten days of their lives. I was ready to tell them wonderful things. But instead, they talked to me. I just listened because I knew this would be the end of hearing their voices. I made some new memories. Besides they knew how much I loved them.

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[kitarella_imagines]

I'm glad you had that experience, it sounds nice.

My dad died full of tubes in a hospital bed when I was 13. I can barely remember him, so there must be an ocean of things I could have told him. I don't even know what having a dad is like tbh. That's life I guess.

My mum was always angry and spiteful, I kept away from her. She is much nicer now she's got dementia and lives in a care home. But it's a 3 hour drive and she is much happier in a care home than she ever was with me.

So I don't really know what having nice parents is like, but I'm just glad me and my husband are far, far better parents to our daughter. She is far, far ahead of me in knowing herself, knowing what she wants, managing her life, than I was at her age.

Sorry to dump all this on you but you are a kind lady.

[pattrose]

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry about your dad. Your mum sounds a little like mine. I was so sad when my dad passed. I was with my mom because my brother needed help with her for the last few weeks. I loved her but she didn't love her eight children. She was very mean until the end. I didn't feel the loss like I did with my dad. That sounds terrible. But like you said we've become much better parents. That's what's important.