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Thought I would share with my friends.
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It's been a rough month. Actually, it's been a rough six months, but this last one was the straw that broke the camels back. Our oldest daughter has lived with us for almost 9 years and she's decided to start on drugs at the ripe old age of 45. Who does that, right? Anyhow, her ten year old daughter, Sam has been left for us to raise. Not that we mind because she's a very good girl. She's in fourth grade and doing pretty well. Her mom did drugs while she was pregnant and Sam has learning disabilities. She barely reads at a second grade level. She has a tutor and we're working on it, but they have told me that she's just really behind. Math is another story. She loves it and excels in it. Which works out well because I suck at math and would not be able to help her with homework. LOL Anyhow, for the last two weeks, we've been a family of three, instead of four. I called the school and a therapist is seeing her three times a week. Her mom hasn't even called her to see how she's doing. I filled out all the paperwork for guardianship for her so she'll be on our insurance. Right now she is without. (Did I mention I want to scream and kick her mom's ass?) Her teacher called yesterday and said she believes that Sam is doing better with us than with her mom. So that made me feel somewhat better. I've left messages for her telling her to sign the paperwork for me so we don't have to go through a lawyer, but she won't call or text. She's so friggin' selfish. So now we are the parents of a ten year old. Rodney said he'll wait to retire for a while now. For the insurance, mostly. Sam is getting her room cleaned out and putting up new things this weekend. We're going to try and make her life as happy as possible, because God knows it's sucky right now. She's a wonderful child. Very helpful and hangs with us all the time. It helps that she knows no other life than with us. She asked me if she had to go to a group home for unwanted kids. I started crying. Why should a child have to worry about this? We assured her that she's not unwanted and she'll be with us until she finishes college. That seemed to make her feel better. This weekend we have big plans for Tom's wife's birthday party. :) She going to help me make Green Chile Stew and a homemade cake. I like them from scratch. So shoot me. LOL Even the frosting is going to be delicious. So each day gets a little easier and we're going with the flow quite nicely. She goes to church every week with a friend, so there is that too. And now we're looking into soccer. We'll see what happens with that. She's a great runner and already belongs to a running team once a week. It's like track, but they also focus on your self-esteem. I want her to feel good about herself. We're working it out and things will be fine for her. Now we just need to focus on getting her happy and keeping her that way. This is what she looks like now. I took this picture about a week ago. She's such a sweetie. :)
It's been a rough month. Actually, it's been a rough six months, but this last one was the straw that broke the camels back. Our oldest daughter has lived with us for almost 9 years and she's decided to start on drugs at the ripe old age of 45. Who does that, right? Anyhow, her ten year old daughter, Sam has been left for us to raise. Not that we mind because she's a very good girl. She's in fourth grade and doing pretty well. Her mom did drugs while she was pregnant and Sam has learning disabilities. She barely reads at a second grade level. She has a tutor and we're working on it, but they have told me that she's just really behind. Math is another story. She loves it and excels in it. Which works out well because I suck at math and would not be able to help her with homework. LOL Anyhow, for the last two weeks, we've been a family of three, instead of four. I called the school and a therapist is seeing her three times a week. Her mom hasn't even called her to see how she's doing. I filled out all the paperwork for guardianship for her so she'll be on our insurance. Right now she is without. (Did I mention I want to scream and kick her mom's ass?) Her teacher called yesterday and said she believes that Sam is doing better with us than with her mom. So that made me feel somewhat better. I've left messages for her telling her to sign the paperwork for me so we don't have to go through a lawyer, but she won't call or text. She's so friggin' selfish. So now we are the parents of a ten year old. Rodney said he'll wait to retire for a while now. For the insurance, mostly. Sam is getting her room cleaned out and putting up new things this weekend. We're going to try and make her life as happy as possible, because God knows it's sucky right now. She's a wonderful child. Very helpful and hangs with us all the time. It helps that she knows no other life than with us. She asked me if she had to go to a group home for unwanted kids. I started crying. Why should a child have to worry about this? We assured her that she's not unwanted and she'll be with us until she finishes college. That seemed to make her feel better. This weekend we have big plans for Tom's wife's birthday party. :) She going to help me make Green Chile Stew and a homemade cake. I like them from scratch. So shoot me. LOL Even the frosting is going to be delicious. So each day gets a little easier and we're going with the flow quite nicely. She goes to church every week with a friend, so there is that too. And now we're looking into soccer. We'll see what happens with that. She's a great runner and already belongs to a running team once a week. It's like track, but they also focus on your self-esteem. I want her to feel good about herself. We're working it out and things will be fine for her. Now we just need to focus on getting her happy and keeping her that way. This is what she looks like now. I took this picture about a week ago. She's such a sweetie. :)
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Okay, she might have one or two abandonment issues - I can say that with confidence thanks to my experience with being evacuated in 1939-40 - but because she's with you and Rodney she'll probably end up really happy and not really missing her mother.
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The difference between me and her is that my mother was acting from what she thought were good intentions. The road to hell...
And thank her from me for her good wishes.